You know what I've been doing all this while?
Apart from the time at the hospital, I've been dosing myself with an overdose of Korean drama series. Next week I'm planning to not let myself be lulled into believing this illusion of perpetual holiday. I got to start preparing for the next stage of life next year! A new job, a new place, new chances and opportunities.
What would be in store for me next year?
Haha, that is for Allah to know and for me to find out ;)
But watching these shows got me thinking how easy it is to win a woman's heart. A bit of care and thoughtfulness for the other person is all that it takes. I think everyone knows this, even if they don't always remember. Love is also not a business transaction, so you can't do things and then expect things to come right back at you. There is no price to pay. It is free to be given away. But only according to the freewill of concerned parties. It is also not always recognizable, you could be someone's moon and stars but you don't even have an inkling of the situation.
So, please be careful at who you be nice to. If they fall and love you, sometimes you don't even notice. So don't go out in this world trying to be nice to every single person without limits. They might interpret it wrongly, and you can't be blamed because as always, you were only being nice.
Pathetic. A very flawed system, I must say. How can it be otherwise? You can see for yourself how many lonely hearts are around you, wandering the world like lost souls on purgatory punishment. It would be easier if everyone know what is what and never be mistaken again.
I hope these souls know and remember that finding love or whatever is not your sole purpose in this life. After love, what then? If love is the only purpose, then those who have found true love should die right away because the objective of their living have been fulfilled. What use are you to the world now when you already served your purpose? But we don't see people dying after they have found true love. So love cannot be the main aim in this life. An accessory item, maybe, but not the main.
Furthermore, it wouldn't be fair to those who don't have anyone. If love is the sole purpose, because they don't have anyone then they have clearly failed to fulfil their obligation. I don't want these people to die, but if they are not of much use, why deplete this world of its resources? Chances should be given to people who have the potential to find someone. This process is a perfectly normal phenomena, "survival of the fittest". But as we don't see people dying everyday for failing to find love, clearly love is not the sole purpose.
It is hard to get away from the idealized stereotype life path that has been deeply etched into our minds but sometimes I suspect that people have forgotten the true reason for us being sent here. Excuse the shallow depth of my knowledge but isn't the term khalifah means that we are leaders and have to be always responsible for something? Khalifah does not suggest singularity at all. For me it indicates a team, a group moving together under the command of the leader. But now, every goal, every dream has been thoroughly individualized that we dissociate ourselves from the masses. Recognize these mottoes? "Fulfill
your dreams" "All that matters is
you" "
You can do it". We don't identify ourselves to be part of something bigger anymore. None of these have evil connotations but everyday, all the time it is just the mantra "me, myself and I".
Sure, I am guilty for this too, and I still am. But don't you feel unsatisfied? We have to go try and seek a bigger playing field, to take our minds away from just thinking about ourselves and what is ours only.
It is true that you have to build yourself first and then only can you afford to think about others. But I think there is a distinction between building yourself for self-satisfaction and building yourself but keeping an eye on a bigger picture all the while. Niat is the key. This is certainly not easy, but I hope we all try to break free from the chronic diseases of apathy and narcissism.
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Hmm..I wonder how we got from Korean drama to this :p
