When you hit rock bottom, the only way to go is UP

Lyrics | Face Down lyrics

Honestly, I think men nowadays don't have a clue as to how to treat a woman.
Don't they know that when a woman tells you she loves you, that is the hardest thing she ever had to say? When they tell you that, they are really giving away part of their heart (if not all of it) for you to decide what to do with it. Will you throw it away like dirt if you don't want it? Will you break it gently to her that you couldn't take it? Would you trash her in your blog? Will you just keep mum about it, pretending it never happened?....or if you DO want it, will treat her as she needed to be treated?
Or worse, you're unsure whether you want it or not. Then you hang around just because it is convenient for you. You whisper sweet empty words to her, just so that she build her whole life around you. But because all your actions did not come from the heart, you take her for granted. You push her around, hit her like a punchbag because you know she'll stay with you.
But for how long?
Like in the song, the woman has so fallen for this guy. Even if we all go and shout at her ear that the guy is a good-for-nothing dirt bag, she'll never listen. He is her whole life, you see.
In truth, I am puzzled that she doesn't see the guy as who he really is. Why is she so stupid to fall for a guy like that?
Is that what love can do to you?
God help us if it is.
Let me tell you a story.
I know this girl since high school. Back then, she's like the sunshine. Happy, carefree and a good friend. After high school, we separated and went our own ways. Occasionally we sms each other, see each other profiles in Friendster, the usual thing. I never suspected something was wrong.
But then, during my final year at university, she sent me an sms out of the blue, saying that I should check my mail as she sent me something.
What I read there, I never saw it coming.
She told me that she's been married for 2 years and already have a child. The reason that she contacted me was to say that one day when she came home from work, she caught her husband on their marriage bed naked with another woman. She's lost and don't know what to do.
...I was beyond stunned.
I tried knocking some sense into her..trying to be there when she needs me. I don't know why she told me, I don't know how to handle these things but I tried.
What I don't understand is that she is willing to forgive him. She's willing to return back to him not because of the child, but because she "loves" him.
Don't misunderstand me, I'm all for forgiveness. I know it's good to forgive and forget but somehow this doesn't seem to apply.
I think her husband don't even love her by the way that she treats her: he doesn't work, doesn't pay the rent, he just stays at home while my friend had to juggle between classes, part time job every night and her child. When she comes home every night her husband expect to be with his wife even though she's tired. Can you believe it? Sorry, but that sound nothing like an ideal marriage. It sounds more like parasitism.
Why does she stay? True, he doesn't hit her physically. But he is destroying her emotionally and mentally. My friend doesn't believe she'll ever be loved again, that she is unloveable. That is why she hold on to him even though he hurt her so bad.
I pity her but I don't know what to do.
...This story happened years ago and I heard that she is now divorced. My friend did not leave him, he left her for the girl on the bed.
My friend when I contacted her is still pining for him. Still saying that she loves him.
When I told her that she must forget him and move on, she got so mad. She's like a different person.
Until now I don't know what happened to her.
For me I think that maybe it is just as well that she is divorced. At least she now have no choice but to move on. It is a different kind of justice. Maybe in time my friend would find faith in herself again and be stronger as ever. I hope that life will work out for her. I hope she'll realize that she finally had enough.

Face down in the dirt
She said "This doesn't hurt!"
She said "I finally had enough!"

Yes, I do hope for the best. Tomorrow is another day, we can all start over again.