Once the fairy dust have gone, will our wings fall off?

Faith is a funny thing.

It is never there at the beginning, but it stays with you right up to the end.

I believe everything and anything is part of a fuzzy logic system that is both highly dynamic and fixed and the same time. That is what i understand of qada' and qadar anyway.

So, if you ask me about love. I really do believe in it, but maybe not in the way that you do. I am not worried, even if sometimes the skies do look grayer than usual.

I am not into rushing things that should be slowed down or into slowing down things that can be rushed. I am all for going through the day the very best that I can and be thankful for anything and everything that comes in my way.

Just because I believe that as long as the sky hasn't fallen on me yet, then there is still a life to be lived and experiences to go through.

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So someone posted this on Facebook

Oh, rupa-rupanya Allah pasangkan kita dgn pasangan kita untuk kita saling merintih kepada Allah dalam menghadapi kerenah masing-masing. Allah menguji kita melalui dia, Allah menguji dia melalui kita. Inilah yg kita belajar daripada cinta dan sabar dalam rumah tangga Nabi Ibrahim dan isterinya Siti Hajar. Sesungguhnya cinta mereka bukan cinta biasa

~from column Soal Cinta by Pahrol Mohd Juoi,Solusi isu no.18

After reading this, I thought: why the rush? Getting married is never the end of anything. It is always the beginning of everything else. Because of this reality it is absolutely mandatory to think things through and make decisions that is both at ease with your heart and mind. I am never comfortable whenever those two are at war: I can't tell which one is the right path. So to avoid more soul conflict it is best to find a common ground where the heart and mind are at peace.

So to hell with all outside pressure, or any factors that can force you into choices that are not your own. It really doesn't matter if they tell you that you are making a grand mistake because that guy is a hotshot imam with a RM10,000 monthly salary, is insanely handsome and totally into you (wow, does this guy even exist?). If there is no connection then there will be no connection. If you think he is stupid, then there is no way you can truly respect him as a husband or as a person to turn to, right? Truth is, other people's criteria are useless to you. You got to be of the same wavelength or there will be no coherent communication. That is just like playing a foreign word game: you know you're playing to lose.

If we take the above quote as a guideline, where is the logic in choosing a test that you despise and will fail time and again? Love to me is hard work because once the fairy dust has gone off, real world sets in and you're on your own baby.

Your husband/wife is both a blessing and a test. In fact, EVERYTHING is a blessing and a test. So what I am saying is: choose wisely and take your time. And of course pray and have faith.

As Stacie Orrico so aptly sang: there's gotta be more to life ;)