People say that eyes are the window to the soul..they say that if you look into someone's eyes long and deep enough, it'd reveal the person's true self.
Through time, the most effective communication medium would have to be talking face to face. Because communication is just so much more than empty words, it has to be substantiated by gestures, emotions and also assessment of reaction when posed with an action.
God help us in this world today where people no longer need to see each other to talk. Why bother? We have our emails, our chatboxes, our handphones, our letters. You could be stuck in your house for a whole year in front of the computer using the internet, surviving only on online deliveries but you'd still be considered "connected".
This is the reason why miscommunication is becoming more common everyday.
When some of the essential elements of communication are missing, it cease to be a full reality. It is more of a fantasy and misconceptions. Because, you see, when these elements are lacking, then the human mind would try and attempt to fill those gaps by imagining what the other person looks like, what that person is feeling, what that person is thinking. Majority of the population are rushing, heading the wrong way fast. This is all because communication has no pressing need for the human touch.
Do you ever notice that words in sms could be read in a different tone and it sends a whole different message altogether?
The way the person interpret our message without the necessary visual cues and signals is not in our control. That is totally in that person's control. So as you very well know, when the mind roam free it would be guided by emotions and preconceptions. Eventually the mind would reach a conclusion, but often this conclusion is way off target. It is almost always wrong.
What is worse is that when the mind comes to a conclusion that the mind thought up by itself, it wouldn't budge. It is hard to change once the mind is made up. We still think it is true even though there is no hard evidence to back that claim.
I agree that the ability to draw conclusion out of nothing at all is sometimes necessary when we are facing new situations, new problems. We way we act when faced with something we never encountered before would be dictated by our past experiences, our sentiments, our emotional state at the time, our level of knowledge and education, our desires, our fears and our conscience. All of these factors would have an influence on our actions. It would determine whether you'd stay or go away? Would you hide away or face it head on? Would you stop or keep going?
......But I think that it is not wise to always follow blindly a generalization made by your mind. Keep your mind and heart open for the remote possibility that this time, this one time it would be different. Give that person a chance to prove his/her worth.
However, when you discover that all is not what it seem to be, do not dwell there a second longer, move on, start over. But don't shut down your mind and heart, who knows, the next time it would be different? ;)
Have faith people!
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Decisions..decisions...What is life without them anyway? In the end, you would be held responsible for your choices. Even in the afterlife, you'd still be asked about your choices.
Why you did that and not this? Why'd you take a left when you could have taken a right? Why'd you choose wrong when you could choose right?
It is not whether you could, but rather a question of whether you would.
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